Hello Beautiful Ones,
Today I’ve been adjusting some thought patterns that aren’t doing me any good, and about time too.
I’m sure you all know those thought patterns. I’m not good enough. No one loves me. I’m not beautiful enough.
Yep, I’m pretty certain most of us have thought the last one. More than we’d care to admit. But today, I had a look at the negative thoughts that affect me the most, whether they were regular thoughts, or just ones that pop up occasionally. Even if it was only thought once, it has to go.
So I sat down with a cup of Green Tea with Apple Cider Vinegar and Honey, some instrumental music playing in the background and pen and paper and came up with this list of thoughts that are not doing me any good:
- I don’t have enough.
- I’m not good enough.
- No one wants what I have to offer.
- No one wants me.
- No one cares about the things I care about.
- I’m a failure.
- Nothing is working.
- I hate my hair.
- I’m not beautiful enough.
- The world is #*@%&! and there’s nothing I can do about it.
- Everyone else gets the things I want the most and I don’t.
These are all things I have thought when things are going badly. The funny thing is though, when you begin to think these kinds of things, you begin to think it more. And more. Soon it becomes the only thing you can see and you believe it to be true. And that in a way, makes it become true, at least to you.
Other people tend to pick up on this negative feeling though. And the more you convince yourself that these kinds of thoughts are true, the more they get reflected in your dealings with others and the world around you.
Now, perhaps you may be reading this and saying “that’s ridiculous Colette. How could that possibly work?” But trust me, words are incredibly powerful. They can make a person believe that they are worthless. They can make a person believe that the world is better off without them.
On the other hand, when used in a positive way, words can make a person believe that they are important. That they can make a difference in the world. That they are loved. It’s all a matter of perspective.
So, now for the list of thoughts to counteract the thoughts above. But before I tell you what they are. I will share my criteria for these thoughts.
- They had to be helpful (or in other words, they had to be positive rather than negative. And,
- They had to be true.
That meant that I couldn’t just jump on the internet and pull a heap of generalised ‘positive affirmations’ from some website. They had to come from me. They had to be things that I could think of myself and think “that makes me feel good and I am able to believe that.”
Are you ready? Here they are:
- The Universe (God(s)/Goddess(es)/The World/Whatever else you want to put here) will always provide me with what I need.
- I am good enough and I deserve to be happy and have good things.
- People do want what I have to offer. I just need to either look in other places to find those people or see how I can better help the people I have contact with already.
- The people that matter want me and love me.
- The right people care about the things I care about, I just need to find them.
- I am not a failure, for I have known and still know success, no matter how big or small.
- I will find what works and go with it.
- My hair is wild, untameable and beautiful, like myself.
- I am beautiful.
- I will be the change I want to see in the world.
- Those things would not help me, the Universe (God(s)/Goddess(es)/The World/Whatever else you want to put here) will always give me what is best for me.
It was incredible reading through that list with the knowledge that each one was both helpful to me and true. After all positive affirmations from the internet can only go so far. In order to make the change from negative thinking to positive thinking the replacement thoughts need to be more than just positive. They need to be true.
So, what negative, unhelpful thoughts do you find yourself entertaining? And what positive, truthful thoughts can you replace them with?
Comment under this post with your lists! I’d love to hear them 🙂
I was prompted to finally do this after reading this article by Amita from Aligned Holistics.
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